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September 19 Escape from the ZooLife at Baby Sis's was a getting a little crazy. The triplets aka the bosses) are now 1 1/2 years old and the 3 year old is hitting his 'terror' stage. Needless to say, Baby Sis was feeling pretty frazzled. The weekend was great. It was relaxing. Many photos were taken of the beautiful lake and sunsets. Baby Sis was able to get a good start on catching up on her scrapbooking for each of these sweet angels. The last evening we spent watching one of the fantastic sunsets that occur right before Fall officially arrives and had fun goofing around. It was a great, although short, time away. I think we will have to do this again before the bad weather sets in for the winter. It's just too much fun getting away for a few days with your sisters. Once I get through the ridiculous amount of photos I took, I'll post a few in the photo album. Until then, we are keeping a close eye on this mommy. We don't want her escaping.
Check out my other place for the Dweeb adventure (oye!). September 11 I'm Just A Lucky GalFollowing Malathion Man's advice, I checked out my home on this satellite map. I found a good map on Globe Explorer. It is scary how detailed this map. By the way, thanks for the absolute torture you have now inflicted upon me. I will never forget. I'm just glad you didn't point out the Chiefs not only lost yesterday, but we lost our starting quarterback for who knows how long!
So without further ado... My Home:
To find it: the bottom of the picture (dark area) is the lake. Above the lake you will see a large circle drive. As you get towards to the top of the large circle drive... on the right you will notice two structures. Those are the homes on our street. The first house (closest to the circle drive) is mine. The white lines below my house are walking paths. Pretty nice huh? The great thing about this map, it gives no addresses on the map. Just to the right of my house and the house next to me is one of the 9th hole of one of the best golf courses in the nation. Too bad I don't play golf.
![]() September 06 DEAR TOM PETTY,Dearest Tom, I'm professing my love for you publicly. I have loved you since I was in college in the 1970's. You have always been at the top of my list baby. I LOVE your new music. The new CD rocks! This is the best music you have put out in many years in my humble opinion. I listen to it constantly. It's playing in my Media Player now. It's in my car. It's on my iPod. You are addictive Tom! I have never been able to see you live. I try eveytime you whizz through Bonner Springs, but the damn kids got in the way or I already had a ticket out of town for an adventure. This year you didn't even come our way! What's up with that? I think of you everytime my hubby pulls out his Rickenbacker bass. When he has a Rickenbacker in his eye on Ebay, we laugh wondering if the rumors are true that you are buying all the vintage basses. Hubby has had his since college. He won't ever sell it. You know I need a big weekend to kick up the dust. Yeah a big weekend, cause I'll be damned if I rust. Please feel free to send airline tickets and concert tickets to your next gig. I'll be there! And if you come by my door you can sleep on the floor. Heck you can sleep anywhere you want. So turn that car around and get your tush back to Kansas. I must end this letter as I have to beg and plead my husband to learn the new songs so he can sing them to me until you can get here to sing to me, of course. Kisses, Sue If you haven't heard it yet and you like rock and roll (especially Tom Petty and Heartbreakers) you must catch his new CD Highway Companion. I think it's one of his finest. For my rant of the day, go to blogger. August 23 I've Got An Itch... It Must Be ScratchedThe day is coming upon us. You all know it. We all know where we were and what we were doing when we first heard the news or watched it live on T.V. I know I did, just as I remember where I was and what I was doing when I heard President Kennedy was assasinated. I may have been in first grade when that event occurred, but I remember. It is nearing the fifth anniversary of the deaths of 2,996 Americans by terrorists on our own soil. 9/11. Each year I watch the specials aired regarding that dreadful day and have noticed it is quickly becoming the same thing every year. Don't get me wrong. We need to be reminded of the heinous acts those days. We do need to see those planes hit the buildings each year. Americans seem to have the attention span of a gnat. But, I am getting very frustrated. I'm sure the Evil that ordered and made this possible gloats each year watching over and over his so called achievement. It's time. It's time to recognize the victims. The victims of 9/11. Sure their names are many walls, memorials, listed on internet web sites, etc, but we need to put a face to each name. This was personal. I want to know who these people were. If this happened to one of my sisters or my husband or God forbid my daughters, I would scream out to the world what they have lost. Each year we see some of the families of the victims of 9/11. They are the same faces every year. I know, I watch them. What about the others? Every single person had a family and loved ones who are still in mourning with their loss. Majority of families had no remains to bury, as I understand. When those buildings came down, everything became dust. Could you find closure? I'm sorry, but it's not the same as losing a loved one in our normal lives. This was a terrorist attack that destroyed many families. I hope I'm getting my point across. I do feel strongly about this. So I had an itch. I wanted to do something. I had no idea what at this point. As I was surfing around the other night, I stumbled across THIS space. I was intrigued. It didn't take me long before I found myself entering my email address and receiving the name of a victim of 9/11 to honor. Here is how it works: You sign up with your email address. The computer randomly picks a name from the list of 2,996 victims. It gives you a bit of information about that person. The search engines and words to search are all ready to go so you can search for more information regarding the person you were given the honor to write a tribute about. There are about 700 names left. All you have to do is accumulate as much information as you can on the person and write a tribute to that person. POST IT ON 9/11. The object is to have ALL 2,996 victims memoralized on a more personal level by BLOGGERS on 9/11. I have the person I have been given. It doesn't take a lot of time to research them. I'm hoping to contact the family to make it more personal, but I certainly understand if they wish to not contact me. They don't know me from Adam. I hope I can do him justice. IT'S TIME TO PUT FACES TO THE NAMES ON THE LIST. DON'T YOU HAVE A JUST A FEW MINUTES TO WRITE A TRIBUTE TO A PERSON WHOSE LIFE WAS TAKEN AWAY IN A MOMENT OF TERROR. A TRIBUTE TO THEIR FAMILIES AND THE PAIN AND HORROR THEY HAVE ENDURED? GO HERE NOW PLEASE CONSIDER DOING THIS. DON'T LET ANYONE'S NAME BE LEFT FACELESS ON THAT LIST WHEN ALL TRIBUTES ARE POSTED ON 9/11. CONTACT ME OR THE PERSON ON THIS BLOG FOR MORE INFORMATION. THIS MOVEMENT IS BEING DONE BY ALL THE WONDERFUL PEOPLE IN BLOGOSPHERE. TAKE A MOMENT AND AT LEAST THINK ABOUT IT AND CHECK THIS WEB SPACE OUT. Thanks for listening to me. This is just too important. It's time the tide shifts to the victims and not all on fireballs and planes hitting WTC. OKAY, OKAY, I'll stop now. Thank you guys. *kisses* what is up with all the fonts and colors in this post????? MSN?? Are you there?? What are doing now? Sorry, this looks bizarre. Once again, I seem to not have control over this post. OYE! August 22 World TravelThe state of our world right now is very troubling. As some of you may remember, my sister took three of her daughters to Italy in June for a convention at Vatican City for Catholic Girls Challenge (a Catholic Girls Group). They fell in love in with Rome. They had their audience with the Holy Father and visited as many points of interest as possible during their stay. ___________________ NOW GET OVER TO THE OTHER SPACE TO CHECK OUT WHAT I'M REALLY THINKING ABOUT LIFE! http://jayhawkfever.blogspot.com GO AHEAD! DO IT NOW! PLEASE! August 09 Hey, How Are You?Today it is Africa Hot as Chris appropriately puts it. Heat index is 108 and climbing quickly. So, of course, I'm in the car running errands. All morning I've been thinking about what Angei wrote about. Words. Our words. How we sling them around without really thinking about it. When we ask someone a question such as 'How are you?', do we really want to know? Are we willing to wait for the answer and listen to them? In this harried world of ours, most of the time the answer is 'no'. Just words.
It really hit home as I made a stop at a craft store for flowers for Reece's grave (since someone stole the ones I put there last week, but that's another blog). I ran into a gal I hadn't seen in a couple of years. When my girls were in elementary school, her girls and my girls were best friends. Then they grew apart and so did we. The older girls (DQ) both have struggled with issues. The younger girls (Blondie) have flourished into beautiful young women. I love catching up with the families we were close to at one time. When we saw each other, it was the standard "HEY! It's been so long!" I asked how the girls were doing. She said good and told me what the younger one was doing. We commented how our youngest girls were graduating from college in a year. Then she asked me "How are your girls?" I tell her "Good. Blondie is...." and then in a moment she is creeping down the aisle saying, "That's good. It was great to see you." And she was gone.
Now, this didn't hurt my feelings. We haven't been close in many years. But I did just stand there a bit dumbfounded. This had those thoughts streaming through my brain again. Wow. What if I really cared to tell her what was going on? What if I cared to share with her that I was there to get flowers for my grandson's grave. She doesn't even know about him and still doesn't because she didn't stick around long enough to listen. What if I needed her ear for just a moment? What if I had some wonderful news to share? How that could have hurt.
This incident re-enforced everything Angei spoke about. If you take the moment to ask someone a question, take a moment to listen to them. You never know what you might hear or how you might just make someone's day a little brighter. Words are powerful, no matter how small. August 03 More on the Brain TumorSo, after our great lunch yesterday, Dweeb's dad called A. A is Dweeb's sister. It's been awhile since I've talked about her and her hunky boyfriend. Anyway, the dad calls A to tell her about the brain tumor. She didn't know about it either and she talks to him much more often than we do. He thought for sure he had told her. How do you forget to tell your family you have a brain tumor... benign or not? Bizarre.
My browser is dealing me fits with the changes. I'm getting it fixed tomorrow and then will be able to get around to everyone. Honestly, I'm not ignoring anyone or being a jerk. I can barely get on my own space right now. *frustration* August 02 What in the World?Today is Dweeb's day off. That means today is like Saturday for us. We sleep in, relax, run errands, and do what we want to do. Yesterday I was unable to get on my space at all for some odd reason. This morning when I fired up my computer, boy was I surprised. It was if aliens had landed and abducted my space for experimentation and probing! I was totally freaking. I couldn't read the text and the format was foreign. Then I notice my email box has several messages. That is very odd. This email address I don't use for very many things. I thought the spam monsters had located me. When I opened it up, it showed many of you asking to be 'my friend'. Now I'm so confused. I thought I was your friend! Can you get to spaces without being a friend? Once again the questions and thoughts are screaming through my head. I fiddle around on this contraption trying to fix it so I read text without totally screwing something up (so far so good). I accept all invitations and head back to my little space to figure out what in the world landed there.
It didn't take very long to figure out what the 'Friends' issue was about after I paid a visit to Sasha in a panic. I can deal with that. It will be interesting to see what other surprises I will encounter now. Needless to say, I didn't get any homework done for 'learning to make your own banner' class that Soon To Be Dr. Cara is holding on her space. If you are interested, definitely go check it out. She's trying very hard to teach IT idiots like me how to look like we know what we are doing. Just as I got everything figured out and set to go, Dweeb decides he wants to take me out... to eat. You have to understand, he never suggests we do things like that. I have drop hints, act pissy, or flat out say "we are going out to eat tonight". I was so excited he actually came up with this idea, I said yes immediately and jumped up. Yeah, so much for blog walking or banner making now.
So Dweeb and I are running a couple of errands for items he needs. Things like a couple of guitar strings and a bag to hold other music crap. You know, GUY errands. It wasn't very long though before he said he was hungry for pasta and I thought I was dreaming. He always pulls into Panera's when we go to eat and I'm pretty sick of that place right now. I suggest Zio's which is perfect for an Italian late lunch. It's 3pm so the lunch crowd will be gone. It will be a peaceful and relaxing DATE! Maybe even a glass of wine is in order *raising eyebrows*. We are immediately being seated when who is flagging us down from a nearby table?? His dad and stepmother! We both stop dead in our tracks and I know we both had the same groans in the back of our throats. Dweeb and his dad did not speak for years until recently. His parents were divorced when he went to college. His stepmother is from Germany and we can NEVER understand to this day a word she says. We all just sort of nod and chuckle or show concern. Sometimes you can catch a word or two and try to piece together what in the world she is talking about. So, today, on our date, we run into these two. We obliged to sit when they ask and have lunch. What do you do? No choice. They are nice, but this was our date! So we sit and his dad is calmly telling us that they are coming back from the doctor from his checkup. He had blood drawn. We answer hm.. hm. Meanwhile praying his wife doesn't speak for fear we will not know how to react. He continues with how he had an MRI. We both look at him a bit puzzled. He said, "Oh, they were checking my brain tumor." WTF? Dweeb and I keep our poker faces. My brain is racing through it's Rolodex looking up FIL/brain tumor/date... nothing was coming up. Did he tell us about this? How could I forget a brain tumor? We both play it off and I'm totally working on cues from Dweeb. His dad goes on that it's fine. His brain tumor is doing well. I'm still processing this. Brain tumor? Oh crap. Dweeb finally says, "So how long have you had a brain tumor?" I'm so relieved! I didn't forget! Dweeb didn't know either. His dad answers, "About three years now." I nearly loose the food in my mouth. Three years? Okay, obviously it's not malignant. It's not and he is fine.
When we finish eating, we pay and get up, give hugs, and leave. Standing outside Dweeb asks "We didn't run out of there did we?" My reply, "A brain tumor?". Dweeb says, "Worst date on record." We burst out laughing at the scenario that just played and get into the car. Maybe it's better we don't go out much.
Now, I best get to my homework. Although I'm sure Photoshop will deal me fits since I don't know how to use it. July 23 It Felt Like British InvasionBefore I begin blabbing on and on about my weekend, I must brag. We just found out today that Blondie who is in the Business School (Finance) made the Dean's List. Yeah, I'm a litte puffed up right now. That's my baby girl with daddy's brain. Congratulations Girl!
We have never lived on what is the normal schedule for most people, meaning work Monday through Friday and have Saturday and Sunday off. His schedule is insane. He works all different shifts and all different days. So this weekend was a treat. We had the weekend off! Not only that, but Friday the cool front had moved through Kansas City FINALLY and it was GORGEOUS! (Yes that did deserve capitals and exclamation points) It was 50 degrees cooler than the heat index the day earlier. Needless to say, the computer was put away for a couple of days.
Friday night in our city of Olathe (the 13th most desirable city in the United States to live in I might add) the free concert in the park was one of our favorites. Liverpool! They are a Beatles tribute band that are fantastic. They look the part, speak the part, and sing the part. You are whisked back to the 60's and 70's with all the ingenious music of The Beatles. The park was packed. The area in front of the stage earmarked for dancing was used for exactly that from the very first song. These four men in the band begin wearing the black suits and "Beatle" wigs singing the early hits and playing scenes from "Hard Day's Night" behind them. After a very short break, they come back on stage in their beautifully copied Sgt. Pepper outfits with 'Yellow Submarine' clips playing behind them on a screen. They were fantastic as usual. If you ever get a chance to see this group, it's worth your time. You will be singing along with them and the crowd from the first song until they leave the stage.
Saturday began quiet. We both had projects we had begun and so we toiled on those awhile. Myself... I have created one hot mess in the living room. It's time to get caught up with three years of scrapbooking for Blondie, Jaden, Reece, and the scrapbooks I am making for my two grandchilren who were placed for adoption. I want them to have their baby books and the life story of their mom (the incomprable DQ) when they are old enough to want to know where they come from. Yeah. I know. You should see my living room! After looking at the mess I made and tired of trying to figure everything out and where I ended three years ago, Dweeb and I got in the car, with the top down because it was GORGEOUS outside, and headed to the Plaza. When you live in Kansas City and you have the itch for the 'real' city, you head to the Plaza. That's as close as we get. It has ornate buildings, great shopping, concerts in the courtyards, and more fountains than other place in the U.S. It really is relaxing. After a few hours of wandering the Plaza we felt like normal people. Which is not normal by any means. Sunday morning began with breakfast. Yep. I cooked breakfast. Whoa. Thought you were going to faint for a moment. Hey! I said we are normal this weekend. I was also able to look at the hot mess in my living room with a tad more clarity and decided I need more stuff. You know, you never have just the right thing for these important scrapbooks that these kids will have for the rest of their lives. So off I go to the Scrapbook Store and return with a huge bag of more stuff to add to the already disaster area. It may be get very interesting when I pick up all the photos that are being printed for the aforementioned scrapbooks to contribute to the pile in the living room. Anyway, while making my neat piles of this and that it was racing time on the Speed Channel. We love motorcycle racing. Believe me, it's a total adrenaline rush watching these live. This weekend all of the best motorcycle riders in the world are at Laguna Seca in California. The Moto GP was this weekend. Last year we went (where I had a doggone close encounter with Brad Pitt, although not close enough to touch or smooch, but close enough for him to look at me and smile). This is THE race in the U.S. of the year. My favorite racer I've followed for years is Nicky Hayden (you'll find him in a column on the right). This is the 4th year he has raced among the best in the world and it appears he is going to win the title this year. Nicky may be crowned the best motorcycle racer in the world this year. Of course, he won today! He won last year also, so it was a great day. And it was GORGEOUS outside again!
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So here I am babbling on and on about the things I did on my little weekend. I have a question for you since this is a rare occurence for me. Are these the kinds of things you do on weekends? July 21 A PIECE OF ASHLIE!I first came across Ashlie not too long ago through KM. I began visiting Ashlie when I found out her husband, like KM's, was serving this great country of ours and she was holding the fort down at home raising her adorable boys. I have tremendous admiration for moms like Ashlie. My nephew served the first one and half years of the Iraq war and I know how difficult it was for me as an aunt. I cannot even imagine how stressful it would be as a wife and mother waiting at home and with children.
I want you too to meet this amazing gal! Even those that already visit Ashlie will learn a little bit more about her. Ashlie is a fabulous woman with strength I cannot even fathom. So here is my interview with Ashlie and be sure to visit her!
1. How do you use blogging to build friendships?
I'm in awe at the friendshipsI've built through blogging. I have met many incredible people. I love to see their comments and to catch up with their new posts.
2. Why did you choose to share that piece of yourself in a photograph? (go to Ashlie's space to see the beautiful picture of her!)
Because it's taken years for me to accept my pale skin and freckles. They are totally me... and as an adult I wouldn't change them one bit. Plus, one of the boys took the pic!
3. How would you describe your writing style?
Really, really basic. I just write about my days, y boys and sometimes things that are going on in my life. My writing style isn't always as profound as I'd like, but it's all me.
4. If you could spend time with one person (other than your spouse, because really, let's not rack up the suck up points here) who would that be?
I don't know that I can sum it up with one person. Most of the people I am curious about are from the past... like Abraham Lincoln and Harriet Tubman. People of now, would be just about any person who doesn't live in the U.S. and have the freedoms that we have. Just to hear about their culture and their lives day to day.
5. What don't you write about? Anything considered a no-no in your book?
Religion. I don't know that I consider it a no-no. It's just not a comfort zone I've reached yet. This has always been an area of struggle in my life and I just have yet to put it in words. So... see, I just wrote bout something I normally wouldn't... kinda sorta!
6. Are you and your blogging persona the same person?
At first I was going to answer no. But I've thought about it a great deal... and the answer would have to be yes. I'm reserved and guarded in real life until I really know someone. After thinking about it, I feel as if I write the same way. I usually keep with the "safe" subjects.
7. If you had a super power, what would it be?
A mind reader. I'm a people watcher! So I'm always wondering what someone is thinking. I'm sure ith this particular power it could make for some interesting days!
![]() July 17 Ezekial and MurielThe weekend started out okay and 'normal'. It is so friggin' hot and I am still recovering, so Saturday is spent cleaning my two cedar chests that are jammed full of "STUFF" I've been saving. My dad made these cedar chests for me and I cannot fit another thing in them. It takes Saturday and Sunday to accomplish this task and I will tell that story another day. By Sunday late afternoon, I sit here at my laptop to visit everyone. I begin with all the email I haven't gone through in a couple of days. On the television, the 2004 tsunami is playing wave after wave, the dryer with a load of Reece's clothes is tumbling, Dweeb's guitar is screaming to the CD playing, and the a/c is humming away non stop, when all at once.....
COMPLETE SILENCE
I am not sure how long I sat here, but at some point Dweeb yells "What the hell!" I sit back on the couch and am dumbfounded. Dweeb walks up the stairs and we stare at each other. NOW WHAT? Okay, surely the electricity will be back on soon. So much for blog walking right now. The heat index is 108. It's a good time to go run a few errands. The power will be back by the time I am finished and home again.
I'm away from home for an hour and a half and arrive home with goodies and dinner. As I walk in the door, the bells and whistles go off in the house signaling the power is back. Whew! We sit down to eat when again...
COMPLETE SILENCE
Man, this is going to be a long night. We finish eating and wander around the house a bit. Daylight is starting to dim, so I start looking for the lanterns. In the meantime, the power outage doesn't stop my Dweeb. From the bowels of the basement I hear it. The scccreeechhhhingg!!!! OMG! He has the violin in his hot little hands. "Oh, please God, give us power and SOON!"
The lanterns get lit and darkness envelops our area. Dweeb starts calling me Muriel and I start calling him Ezekiel. If we're going to live like the Amish, we may as well feel the part also. When the kids were young we would pretend camping. But it's just me and Dweeb. We decide we are going to be Amish tonight. Ezekiel and Muriel.
We are gathered around the coffee table where the lantern is placed. Dweeb says, "My ears are ringing." Funny. Mine too. It.is.so.quiet. No humming from the refrigerator, no T.V., no computer keyboard clicking, no piano pounding, NOTHING! It is so amazing how QUIET the house is with no electricity. It acutally hurt my ears! It was driving me batty! The humming of the various appliances and electrical gadgets emits so much noise. So what do I do? I whip out the Nano! Thank you Apple! A break in the silence. Pathetic.
Our home was staying relatively cool despite the heat. It was a bit muggy inside, but nothing like outside. The thermostat read 81. It was warmer than that upstairs where we were. Cooler, obviously downstairs. Time for bed. We do have to get up in the morning. So at 11:30 pm we plop on the bed and just lay there. Ugh! It's hot. (It doesn't help with mini hot flashes). We drifted off to sleep when suddenly we are jolted out of our silent slumber and truly quiet home with the bells and whistles going off. The TV is blaring, the oven and refrigerator digital clocks start beeping, the a/c whirs, and ALL LIGHTS ARE ON! Look at the clock and it's 12:10 am. Now everything seems SO loud!! I know, just try to make me happy.
What's 6 1/2 hours without power on the hottest day of the year so far? Nuttin' I tell you. Become Amish. It's more fun that way. But now I have to figure out what the dark puddle of hardened juice under the freezer in garage is from.... July 14 HOT! HOT! HOT!It's been difficult getting around to visit everyone and leave comments the last week and a half because I am on medication for this pesky shingles. When I take the pain medication, I can't think, talk straight, read well, or comment coherently. Hence, I roam around like an idiot through blogland. (Watch your comments Blondie) It is getting better though. Hopefully, I have turned the corner now. I don't take the pain medication nearly as much. Of course, my lucid time is spent doing necessary things like bathing, grocery shopping, dishes... you get the picture. It's only on my left side. Weird. I still have a bit of a hitch in my giddyup, but definitely getting better. So today I was very brave and did not take the meds. I went to Baby Sis' instead so we could get the Bosses (triplets) and Jack out of the house. All four had a bad case of cabin fever. She.cannot.do.it.alone. It takes at least two adults to take all these little people out at one time. I gladly went. I love my Bosses and Jack.
It is so hot now, we had to get them to water. The swimming pool is a last resort since the trips are only 16 months old. We discovered a Water Spray area at a park near the Plaza. This place was perfect! No drowning, no Dictator jumping in the deep end, just run around the spouts of water and have fun! The pictures say it all. Of course, Bubba found the one mud puddle and thought that was the best thing since popsicles! They really should have more of these around town. It's great for small kids.
The kids had a blast and I survived. Of course, now I'm back in my home and on the medication and entering never never land. So keep cool this weekend! It's going to be a hot one! July 12 An "I told you so" moment?I found this article today while perusing our worthless city newspaper that now resembles a USA Today.
- WASHINGTON | Psilocybin, the active ingredient of “magic mushrooms,” expands the mind. After a thousand years of use, that is now scientifically official. The chemical promoted a mystical experience in two-thirds of people who took it for the first time, a study said. It confirms what hippies have long said: Taking psilocybin is a reality-bending and perhaps life-changing substance. The study, published Tuesday in the journal Psychopharmacology, is the first controlled trial of a substance used for centuries by natives of Mexico and Central America to produce mystical insights. It is also nearly the first research on a psychedelic drug in this country since the 1960s.
Well, what do you know! Pfft! And our parents thought we were just stoned! Any baby boomers feel like givin' it another go and having a reality-bending, mind altering, and MYSTICAL experience? Timothy Leary may be turning over in his grave in disappointment that the magical and mystical experience did not result from LSD..
Go ahead.. call your parents... tell them "I told you so!". July 08 Silent No More!This has been eating away at me for years. It is time to speak out. Speak out against the abuse that I received as a child by the hands of my own mother. Listen up you moms out there and pay attention! Don't you unwittingly commit this shameful child abuse that so many of us of large families were exposed to and have had years of therapy to overcome.
I come from a family that consists of one brother and five sisters. Yes, that makes six girls in this wacky family. My mother didn't know any better when she committed this crime. She was doing the best she could. If only kids came with manuals. My mother tried to steal our identities. Yes. It's true. I have the pictures to PROVE it!! It began when we were very young. When there were only three children. Look carefully at the photo.
Do you see what I'm talking about? My sister and I are dressed alike. This is not unusual with little girls. I'm sure you have all done that with daughters who are close in age. But my mother couldn't break the cycle. It didn't stop here. It continued with ferocity. As more girls were born, it became more difficult to tell us apart! Mom couldn't stop! It was an obsession to dress us all alike when we were not in our Catholic school uniforms!
So can you see the pattern here? Look at this! SHAMEFUL! We were all dressed alike constantly. When she couldn't get exact copies, she would get us outfits that were the same only different colors.
In this picture, you can see the cycle continuing with even Lil Sis in the brown outfit sitting next my brother. Being determined to 'break the cycle' I burned all my look alike outfits as a young teen. I was FREE AT LAST! But I think the rebellion of us older girls against this identity theft abuse sent mom into a tailspin. She became lost and didn't know what to do with Lil Sis and Baby Sis. Poor things. I'm not sure if we helped them or hurt them.
Look at the sight of these poor girls. This is how they dressed most of the time. It's a wonder they didn't end up in some commune somewhere or even Berkely! Mom obviously was lost without dressing us all alike.
This is a warning to you moms out there. Don't dress your kids alike past the age of 4. PLEASE! It only torments your daughters and steals their sense of self. And don't let it slip to the point your children look like they just crawled out from under a bridge somewhere either.
Okay... I feel better now. Have a great weekend! June 05 The Brain that is EinsteinBeing a Jayhawk also means you love the town the Jayhawks reside. For many years, it was locally known as the 'Little Boulder' (for obvious reasons). It is an ecclectic town. I love it! Technically, being a Jayhawk means you were born in the state of Kansas. To most, it is associated with the University and the city of Lawrence... and college hoops. Did you know that James Naismith invented the game of basketball? In Lawrence? Yep. College hoops is big.
Other well known people specifically from or attended University of Kansas are Hugh Beaumont (the Beaver's dad), Wilt Chamberlain played basketball at KU, Gale Sayers played football at KU, Dee Wallace Stone graduated from KU (mom in the movie E.T.). Don Johnson (Miami Vice) attended KU, but I'm not sure about graduating. Authors include James Gunn (professor and science fiction writer), Langston Hughes, and William S. Burroughs.
Speaking of William S. Burroughs, he lived in an apartment, I believe on the main street of Lawrence called Massachusetts. Great old buildings, parts of the street still brick, store fronts, hotel, restaurants. It's everyone's favorite place to stroll. If I remember correctly, his apartment was above one of these stores on the second floor, although I never heard an exact address. He had an interesting neighbor. Burroughs himself was quite a character and it would just figure he would have a neighbor such as Dr. Thomas Harvey. Dr. Harvey had been at Princeton, then re-located eventually to Lawrence, next door to Burroughs. Dr. Harvey is the pathologist who did the autopsy on Albert Einstein. Einstein's body was cremated after the autopsy was performed except for his brain. That was preserved to be studied. Everyone wonders if there was something about Einstein's brain that was different from the average brain, right? Apparently, there was a disagreement over how this was to be done, so Dr. Harvey took off with Einstein's brain so nothing would happen to it.
Einstein's brain travelled with Dr. Harvey until he settled in Lawrence in the early 1980's. There it sat under a beer cooler in a cider box in order to remain unharmed. Now, to me, a beer cooler in a college town isn't very safe, but it seemed to work out fine. Einstein died in 1955. In the early 1990's word got out about the brain being with Harvey in Lawrence (he had lost his license by this time and was hanging out with Burroughs which sounds like it would have been a real hoot if you could understand what they were talking about or doing). Anyway, I digress.
The brain was pieced out to different doctors and they started examining it and did find a difference. They used a control group of average veteran folk at about the same age Einstein was when he died. Something about increased amount of glial cells in the brain, which in some studies is found in brains that were exposed to enriched environments. You can find more detailed info on the study here. And if you have any questions regarding that study, you may want to consult with 'The Soon to be Dr. Cara'. She may have the answer *wink*
I find it very interesting that Albert Einstein was able to hang out for several years with William S. Burroughs in a second story apartment in Lawrence, Kansas. I find bizarre things interesting, what can I say?
Let's not forget some of the best Jayhawks to come out of Lawrence or are still there, fellow bloggers Katie and Sabine. So make sure you check them out. *wink*
This is Dr. Thomas Harvey with Einsteins brain. ![]() May 31 Rome, Sweet HomeExcitement has been building the past week in middle sister's home. Mid sis (remember there are six of us girls) has six children of her own. Yeah, she is nuts. But, let's not go there today. Today is a very special day. She is going to Rome and taking three of her girls ages 18, 14, and 13 with her. They are going for the Catholic Girl Challenge (I think that's what they are called) Conference.
They are spending ten days in and around the Vatican. I am so excited for my nieces. They will do the tours, of course, of the Vatican. They will see the Sistine Chapel! They have no real idea the treat in store for them. The most exciting and anticipated part of the incredible trip is this group of girls are getting an audience with the Holy Father. How amazing would it be as a teenager and actually have an audience with the Pope and see him, receive a blessing from him, and who knows what may happen? With these girls, I wouldn't be surprised if the Holy Father spotted them, strolled right up to them, gave them a big warm slap on the back with a "Hey, how ya doin'." They are lucky that way. My poor sis is loaded down with rosaries and medals to take with her during the audience to have them blessed.
The 18-year-old niece is so much like Blondie it's very scary. I got a call Tuesday morning saying she needed a larger suitcase. If I'm being called, then she need the BIG gun and she better pray the wheels don't fall off because she will never be able to carry it. She insists she has to have it, so she swings by to pick it up. When she starts describing what she is packing, I tell her she needs to cut the six pairs of shoes down to 2, maybe 3, along with more advice on what to leave behind. She tells me she told her mom (my sis) that she would like to have a glass of wine while in Italy since there is no drinking age. My sis replies with 'well, we'll have to see. I don't know. You've never drank and I don't know how it will affect you.'
EXCUSE ME??? This girl is 18. I knew my sis was naive when it came to her kids, but PLEASE!
My eyebrow raised and I asked my niece if she was kidding me with that remark. She laughs. Nope. And while talking to her mom, niece almost opened her mouth to say one glass wouldn't bother her before she realized what she was doing and shut her trap. This niece is just the sweetest girl and level headed, but she is a teenager. This cracks me up especially after all the lectures I've gotten from Mid Sis over the years regarding my kids. I tell my niece to enjoy her glass of wine. I'm sure my sis will allow her one glass. It's Italy for crying out loud!
When Mid Sis comes home with the 14 and 13 year old in a couple of weeks, the 18 year old moves on to the Holy Land for a week. This is the trip of a lifetime for these kids and I'm so thrilled for them! Unfortunately, my Goddaughter, niece who is 16 gets to stay home to help with the two younger boys and her dad. But she got to do what she wanted over Spring Break (mission trip to Louisiana to help Katrina victims). She's excited because she won't have to share the car with her big sister for three weeks!!!! In the mind of a teenager, I'm not sure which is better. Trip to Italy with your two little sisters and mom or staying home and having the car all to yourself. That's a tough call.
Ciao!
May 05 I Stand CorrectedThis just one of the many wonderful reasons we are all very glad to see EZ back in action! He has caught my error in my last blog and I stand corrected. The 8 Track Tape came before cassettes. It was the hefty reel to reel tape recorder, which as EZ pointed out in his sweet comment, was the size of a mini recording studio that came before the 8 track tape player.
I know I've been sick this week, but this error which was not caught by myself or the Dweeb when I told him about this entry, means two things. First, that Super Dweeb is being naughty and once again not LISTENING to what I have to say. (all you men out there listen to your wives, don't you?). The second is it seems Dr. Dweeb is going to have to up my estrogen. That should help my memory and keep my Irish temper in check when I confront him on the listening issue.
My bosses called today and I have to go to work, so hopefully I'll swing by and see you all this weekend!
May 03 Technology is amazingI had a bit of relapse today with the 'virus' after going out and drinking like an idiot at my age on a Tuesday night. Today I had to take it easy. I was listening to my iPod marvelling at technology. Thirtysome years ago I was listening to 45's and albums in my bedroom with my parents yelling at me to turn down the obnoxious music before the entire household became deaf. When I started driving, the choice was the radio stations. FM was fairly new then. Yes sir, that was a real marvel to hear rock music on the radio without crackle, static, AND it broadcast in stereo. Your only other choice was a cassette tape (if you were lucky enough to have a cassette deck in your car). Cassettes were great, but you spent the majority of your time forwarding and rewinding trying to find the song you wanted to hear. Many times the songs were ones you had recorded from the cool new FM radio station! Our parents marvelled at what we could do.
Then came the invention that revolutionized stereo systems (in my humble opinion). The wonderous 8 Track Tape!
This was revolutionary to me because you could buy your favorite album on 8 track, put it in your 8 track tape deck, and click to whatever song you little heart desired at any time! No fast forwarding. No rewinding. No ejecting the cassette to flip it over to hear the other side. This was amazing!
The downside was the bulkiness of the 8 Track Tapes, but who cares with the convenience of listening to the song you are dying to play over and over while cruising the strip with ten of your closest friends piled inside your car all singing along? What did they think trunks were for?
And look where they have led us. My little Nano can go with me in the car, placed in it's own little seat, and with the stroke of a thumb I can play an entire playlist of my choice or the same song over and over.
Every one of you should be thankful today for the great 8 Track Tape Player. A moment silence please....
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FOOTNOTE: Blondie calls last night and in middle of conversation with her: "Mom, how in the heck did you SURVIVE without cell phones way back then? " I restrained myself. April 25 Blind leading the blindBirthday coming up, age keeps going up, memory keeps going... going.. going.... I was going through withdrawal not being able to make my usual stroll through blogland due to the "Tornado" refusing me access to my computer while he was here. I've been perusing what I've missed the past few days. While checking in on Freckled Sasha, I was reading up on her latest Design School assignment. This jogged this fragile memory of mine back to the ripe old age of 19 when I got a job I probably should never have had. I was Weekend Houseparent to the High School Girls Dormitory for the School for the Blind. Yeah, I know. I was 19 years old. Gotta say, this was probably the most educating and interesting job I've ever held.
I had never spent much time around blind people when I began this job. My job consisted of showing up Friday afternoon and staying there until Monday morning monitoring the high school girls that lived there. Some went home on weekends, but the majority of the girls stayed there all the time. Some were completely blind. Some were legally blind. Some also had disabilities. I expected to give these girls a little TLC and hopefully nurture them in their little world. I wanted to educate them about the real world a bit too. I was so wise at 19. Weren't you?? This was 1977 remember. Needless to say, I am the one that got the education. These girls needed no TLC or nurturing or educating. They were just fine!!
When I began my job there, the girls knew within a nano second that I was a newbie with blind people. It's as if I had this huge sign pasted to my backside that said "Kick Me". And I fell for it... everytime. These are just a couple of the antics these girls pulled on me to initiate me into their world.
Not long after arriving, one girl said she needed help in the in the bathroom. This created a crowd which should have been my first clue. The girl who "needed help" is a very intelligent girl who is now working in the world, married, and I believe with children living a normal life. She is completely blind. She said, "Miss Sue, I wanted to show you some things. This is my eye cup. I have to have it at night." I'm like okay. I can deal with that. Then in the blink of an eye (no pun intended), she reached up, popped out this eyeball, and held it up into my face! How she knew where my face was, I didn't know at this point. I was speechless. "Miss Sue, this is my eye. Do you like it?" I stuttered a bit. The group of girls burst into gut laughter falling down. Even if they couldn't see me, they KNEW my reaction. I was still stuttering. "Okay. I think you can put that eye back in your head now." Once she stopped laughing she put it back in. She only had eye sockets, so she had 'glass eyes' to look more like everyone else. All right. I won't fall for this one again.
The first weekend I thought was doing such a wonderful job. All girls were in bed at their designated time and lights were all out. It was all quiet and life was good. I would go around, unannounced though, to do bed checks to make sure no one was sneaking out of the dorms. (they are high school kids remember) The second weekend there as I'm doing bed checks in my stocking feet (gotta be sneaky right?) I hear giggling coming from one of the bedrooms. The girl in this room is completely blind. A light bulb finally went off in my stupid little head (again, no pun intended) that I could turn on the light since she was blind to see what was going on. She was not asleep. I was a bit ticked off by this as it was after midnight. She was laying in bed reading. Yep, another small fact I had failed to realize. BLIND PEOPLE DON'T NEED LIGHTS TO READ IDIOT!! They read Braille. Fingers flying across the pages of dots. It's actually amazing to watch. Anyway, this girl had tried to hide the book as I walked in her room. She told me she heard me coming. hmmm... I'm in my stocking feet on tile flooring, no creaks, and I was very careful. She HEARD ME? She had this huge grin on her face! How could I be mad. We both laughed at my stupidity. I became much 'smarter' after the first two weekends.
Our favorite outside activity was to get the school van, corral the high school boys and their houseparent, and go out for adventure. The most entertaining was taking a long van of blind high school kids to the movies. They get out with their canes and we all help each other into the movie theater and grab our seats. The stares and whispers is what the kids really enjoyed. Little did people know just how much these kids could hear. The kids would laugh, crack jokes, and make comments as if they could see what was going on around them that confused the other patrons. They loved the shock value as any teen would. We spend most of the movie whispering parts of the movie that need explaining to the completely blind kids and then exit with the kids all chattering about what a great movie they 'saw'. That bewilders the other movie goers even more.
These girls taught me so much in the short time I was their houseparent. They don't look at their blindness as a disability. They've dealt with it, so why can't we all just move on. They can do just about everything we do if not better. These were amazing girls and I'm honored to have known them.
But if you ever come across a blind person, don't feel sorry for them or pity them.... they may just pop out their glass eye just to gross you out and teach you a lesson!!
And no, don't think I'll try that blindfold thing Freckled Sasha had to do. I'd kill myself! |
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